faith,  family,  inspiration

promises {with guest Amber}

I’m Amber Pierre, mother of 3 under the age of three and married to Stev. I love to sew, but I’m not that great at it, and I love to cook, and no one has had food poisoning yet, which is totally how I determine that I’m a fantastic cook. I am home with my kids, and work part-time as a translator from home.

1002357_10151721060734192_1325302323_n People sometimes ask me for things, or to do things, that I really don’t want to give or do. So sometimes, if I feel like I can’t or shouldn’t say no, I just try the next best thing to no – putting it off.  I say yes, only really half-intending to do the thing.  Like, if they remind me or remember themselves.

Stev wants me to call and duke it out with the cable company.  I tell him it’s the weekend, and I’ll try to remember on Monday.

Claris wants me to paint her fingernails, but it’s nap time, so I say, “After your naptime.”

Dad wants pages of documents translated into French.  And I say, “When I get adjusted to having a newborn.”

So I say “yes”, promising to carry it out, but am saying “no” in my heart, and am really leaving it up to the person in need to make sure I hold up my end of the deal.  And I’m counting on his bad memory to get me off the hook.

This is especially easy with my little flock, who don’t remember asking for something, or may not know how to ask for something they don’t see, who don’t have a concept of time, or who may be somewhat afraid to be persistent.  It’s easy to say “yes, but later,” and hope they forget, while I remember very well.  I sometimes say “yes, but later,” because I don’t want to deal with the fallout from saying a straight-up no right this minute.  The fact remains, however, that I said yes.  And it’s time to either start keeping my promises, or put on my big-girl panties and deal with what happens when I say no.

Hebrews 10:23 says we can “hold tightly without wavering to the hope we affirm, for God can be trusted to keep his promise.”

electa I want people (especially my kids) to know I can be trusted to keep my promise.  Put yourself, for a moment, into a child’s shoes.  You really have very little control over your life, and virtually no power to make something happen for yourself.  Now, suppose you ask someone who is capable and does have control for something you really, really want, and they say “yes, but later.”  Let’s go just a little further and imagine that you forgot asking them for it.  You forgot even wanting it.  And then that person comes to you and says, ‘You asked me to do this for you, and I told you I would do it now.  Do you still want me to?’  Then, she could hold tightly without wavering to my word.

{Amber also posted for me earlier this year garden work vs. dust work}

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